Longtime couple Tom Schwartz and Kati Maloney rare breaking up after over a decade together, Katie announced on Tuesday, March 15. “I never thought I would have to make an announcement like this. But I feel it’s important that I’m open about my life with you,” she wrote on Instagram. “After 12 years on an adventure through our life together Tom and I are ending our marriage. This ending is not met with resentment or animosity, no sides to choose.”

Sharing that she and Tom “have deep admiration for one another that will always remain and we cherish our friendship,” she added, “Although we may be on different paths we will continue to love and support on another’s happiness.”

Tom also confirmed the split in a post of his own, writing, “Well this sucks. How am I supposed to capture 12 years of love in a f-kin canned Instagram caption.”

Although Tom said he’s “not quite ready to use the ‘D’ word bc it’s too painful,” he noted that he will “be ok.”

“Fully respect Katie’s decision and we’ve had healthy, productive conversations about it. It would be far sadder if she decided to stay with me whilst not happy,” he continued. “After 9 years on a reality TV show it feels a little tone def to say ‘please respect our privacy’ (especially while posting this) so instead I’ll ask to please be kind.”

Calling their relationship “the most blissful, romantic fun times humanely possible,” Tom added that he doesn’t look at their breakup as “a failure” and is “happy to say there’s no anger or bitterness” between them.

“I don’t think we were ever a model couple. Maybe we are model divorcees. A dubious title I suppose,” he added. “I’ll be fine. So I’ll shut up now and say it one last time, love you Bub. Always & forever you’ll be in my heart.”

Adapted from E!News.